A dedicated spiritual seeker recently asked how the "specialness" we often attribute to our intimate partners fits in to universal/spiritual love, where everyone is special.
My thought is this - certain people expand one's hearts to the point that more love can pour through it than before. I think this is natural and beautiful.
The feeling of being in love comes from the increased amount of spiritual energy moving through you - the love is the same love that you would give to anyone - just much more intense.
The danger of romantic love becoming "unspiritual" is when couples put their partner or relationship above everyone else. I've seen some couples fall into the trap of finding the negative in other people, situations and relationships as a way to keep that "me and you against the world" feeling that is so strong in the beginning.
The spiritual goal might be to generalize one's newfound open-heartedness to the world, while keeping the relationship sacred.
My thought is this - certain people expand one's hearts to the point that more love can pour through it than before. I think this is natural and beautiful.
The feeling of being in love comes from the increased amount of spiritual energy moving through you - the love is the same love that you would give to anyone - just much more intense.
The danger of romantic love becoming "unspiritual" is when couples put their partner or relationship above everyone else. I've seen some couples fall into the trap of finding the negative in other people, situations and relationships as a way to keep that "me and you against the world" feeling that is so strong in the beginning.
The spiritual goal might be to generalize one's newfound open-heartedness to the world, while keeping the relationship sacred.
posted by The Energy Coach at 6:05 PM
3 Comments:
I love this perspective. I only have a little understanding of it but I think as time goes by it will begin to make more and more sense.
thank you for your wisdom
much love,
g
That is beautiful. I believe that in the context of a romantic relationship we can, if we are conscious, engage our potential for growth and awakening. A spiritual partner is but a mirror - which reflects us honestly. Our inate perfection as well as the flaws of our ego. Marriage is often referred to as the "highest yoga". As it is through working with a soul partner within a romantic partnership that we can learn about ourselves and evolve. However, sometimes - the ego's flaws become to much to bare and the light of the mirror too bright. It is very hard work.
This is my theory - although, truth be told i'm only 33 and i haven't been married yet! All the soulmates i've had have been heartbreaks that have catapulted me in my growth and evolution as a woman. Namaste!
I think the flip side of this is that what can sometimes flow through that special channel is both love and all of the things that people need to get rid of. Given that "opening", sometimes a lot of unresolved issues transfer from one lover to the other. Passion, in my experience, that connection beyond all other connections with another human being, can sometimes be both good and bad. Perhaps, as Urban Yogini said, that is because of the mirror effect. Our partners cause us to see ourselves in all of our aspects and some of them are difficult to look at.
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